March 30, 2010

On the alignment of stars

You may remember that a few weeks ago I wrote about advertising on Craigslist for new friends. I was so pleased that I did actually get a friend out of the deal--my new friend R. She is interesting and quirky and spontaneous and good-hearted. We started hanging out regularly immediately.

I was so happy I'd taken a chance and gone out on a limb a bit, despite some ribbing from existing friends.

You may also remember that I spent a couple years attempting (and generally failing) online dating. I'm not even linking to any of those posts here because I want to think of them as little as possible.

On the day before my birthday this year, Jan. 21, 2010, I gave up. I had the 2nd worst date ever and ended up in tears in my car on the phone with the lovely M.S.P. I took down my account and stopped, and prepared myself for a life of singledom. I cried, I mourned, I slept, and I became annoyingly apathetic again. My friends said, "You'll meet someone when you least expect it!" I scoffed at this, because I LEAST expected it at that moment.

Then I met Dave.

Dave and I met through R's Facebook page--by commenting on each other's comments--and now we are inseparable. Unfortunately, he is currently in Dallas. That makes being inseparable a little challenging and frustrating. He is coming here to see me in a couple of weeks, and I couldn't be more thrilled.

Isn't it funny the chains of events that take place to bring people into our lives? Isn't it funny how easily we could have missed each other had I changed my mind about posting my ad, had R. not responded, had we not gotten our schedules together to meet up, had I not left a comment on her Facebook page.

It's enough to make one believe in fate.


Anonymous said...

Heeeyyyyyyy!!! I'm all about the randomness of life. Gotta love it! Gotta love it! Makes me believe in pre-destiny.

I'm just me... said...

Fate is a funny, amazing thing!!!

Anonymous said...

I've often had very similar reflections about the total randomness of meeting Tim online, not through the painful personals but a random moment in a chat room, an almost missed chance exchange that I only began because the date of his birthday made me think of something to say....and if hadn't of just turned on his computer in that sad little hotel, just left his marriage, or if I hadn't of just about given up on all things hopeful but gave it one last college try to just talk and not "look" it fate? Or are these stories of not giving up? I was very impressed when you placed that CL ad -- it was the antithesis of rolling over and giving up....and look at what has happened for you! You deserve this happiness! (Diana)