Alternative title to this blog: Feedback that should not need to be given, but sometimes you've been wandering around in so many mazes in confusion that you need it.
N: Good, that's good. It's supposed to be fun. You're supposed to smile and laugh and do things and have a good time. Love is supposed to be joyous. If it 's not, then something's not right. If you're terrified and upset and worried, it's not right. If those things happen, you know it's something you need to get the hell away from.
A: I didn't cry at any point, either.
N: Good! There should definitely be no crying the first time you meet someone--I don't care what the reason is. It's supposed to be fun. It's supposed to make you happy.